When our hearts cannot forgive, we are a mess…

We harbor pain, hurt, anger, revenge, fury, and we snap, we angry and cannot move on…

We always hang to the things that hurts us. We allow our thoughts and memories to play them over and over in a way that they feel new and fresh. We cannot let go off the perpetrators; we hold them hostage of what they did to us. As we do; the pain and the hurt does not go because we relive that moment.

Forgiveness, although it may sound easier than done, is not an easy process. It does not happen over night. Only grace can take someone to that level and once there; there is no turning back! Sometimes you may feel you are there and then things happen that takes you back to where you came from; and this is not an easy battle but you must fight. You must fight to let go and move on because experience has taught you better…..

Never allow to keep yourself captive to pain and hurt because of someone. Because as much as you are in that prison, your perpetrator has moved on with life and sometimes not even remembering what s/he did to you whilst you are dying in pain, hurt, anger and depression because you cannot forgive.

It is not easy I know but learn to let go and move on. This is the beast thing you can do for yourself. Learn to forgive (true you might not forget), but total healing happens when you wipe off everything: when you forgive & forget. I know some of you might be reading this and thinking, “how is that simple”, but I know you can! It is doable even though to some it might take time.

Know that; when you forgive someone you release yourself from the past, you allow yourself to focus into the future and still live in the present because this is what matters most: never miss the opportunity that is there for you now (the past is history and tomorrow is not a guarantee). So, do not waste time on things that have passed and to the ones we not even sure that they will come. What is there for you now enjoy, take advantage and create good memories. Wake up! Show up! Live it! And have fun …..

Life is story ……

Never miss to write it down

Published by mashikoane

A realist, always fond of things that are real and matters. The lover of writing and a staunch reader, growing up with a burning passion of writing. I always have a pen a pad with me, life is a story that I never want to miss writing about. It always fascinates me when we are categorized as introverts and extroverts because that on its own is the reason behind every personality. I grew up being referred to as an “introvert” and I later understood the personality behind it: quite, reserved, peaceful, creative mind & thinking; antisocial and very analytical. Being in that space I always knew that as a writer or reader you cannot do that in a noisy or busy place; you need a quite and peaceful environment. It is interesting how I found myself being able to fit all that I love doing in this space that I find myself loving because I fit so perfectly (besides the stereotypes, it is the truth): they all fit, my list is endless but what I know for sure is that “I am born an artist” I am married to my loving and supportive husband for 23 years, Collen and we are blessed with four children; three adult boys; all grown ups and the youngest teen daughter who is still with us and in high school. I am University graduate with a B.A degree in Social Science (majored in Psychology, Sociology and Anthropology), graduated with MBA in Sports in 2011. Worked for more 13 years until 2009 when we began our diplomatic life as a family. What I am grateful for is that there is always a bigger plan and things happen for a reason. Although mostly often, we do not have answers; all that matters is that we share those experiences and life lessons to inspire and lift others up. This is my passion and I am thrilled by challenges; good or bad and my mind likes solving mysteries that I believe are real; sometimes hidden and not spoken about. My favorite authors Danielle Steel and Agatha Christie always challenges my thinking and approach in life. I began reading their books from 14 years and I am still their fan reader. They share their stories in writing and as someone who likes sharing, I quickly connected with them My life is all about the real world: family, marriage, relationships, health, children, parenting, spirituality, cooking, leisure, travel, reading, writing, engaging, connecting, encouraging......I love sharing Sharing is golden

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